thankyou Haykal! :)
For me, optimistic is a must. Even though, I know it’s impossible for me. But, I believe that anything is possible for God.
- Thanks God, I’m not an atheist.
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03.50 am (acak adul)
kayak cowok clubbing ya…..
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if you love something, set it free; if it comes back, it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was
- #TheHeartBox
People are funny: They spend money they don’t have, to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t like.
posted 2 weeks ago
4 Reasons We Judge Others
- We are insecure. This is the main reason we judge. When we are insecure and/or unhappy with who we are, we try to put other people down. Though it doesn’t usually build us up when we put others down, we do it anyway. We want to feel good by making others feel bad.
- We are scared. Often, when we’re scared or intimated by other people, we’ll put them down. Coworkers band together and make fun of their boss (see The Office). Two women see a prettier woman as a threat and they make fun of her outfit. When people are scared, they try to feel better by putting others down. We also may fear those who are different from us and may judge them just because they are unlike us.
- We are lonely. As I mentioned before, there is a bonding element that goes along with judging others. When you are lonely, you might use judgments to bond with other people, but these bonds are based on negativity. The bonds you have based on judging others are superficial and are not likely to contain true substance.
- We are seeking change.When we want our own lives to be different, we are quick to judge the lives of others. For example, if someone wants to be in a committed relationship and his friend gets engaged, he might whisper, “Oh, that girl is so not right for him. I don’t know why they’re getting married.” If we are jealous of others’ changing lives we are likely to make quick judgments.(link)
“Now go to France. The queen of France is sophisticated. Be useful to her, amuse her. She’ll admire your spirit. Learn from her. Observe the ladies of the court. See how they achieve what they want from their men, not by stamping their little feet but by allowing the men to believe that they, indeed, are in charge. That is the art of being a woman.” —Lady Elizabeth, The Other Boleyn Girl
Andrea: My personal life is falling apart.
Nigel: That’s what happens when you start doing well at work. Let me know when your entire life goes up in smoke: then it’s time for a promotion.
